More and more I am learning to get myself into a good head space. What is that you say? That is when you feel completely at peace, your skin doesn’t feel foreign and you are not frustrated and angry with the world. I know HOW to get into a good space, staying there is the issue. It used to be a fleeting thing, but it is getting easier and better over time. This is what I have learned (and we learned this as wee ones). Practice, yup that’s right, practice is the answer. You have to practice choosing right actions. Practice not getting wound up too tight. Practice asking for help. It isn’t fun. And there is a certain chord of pride that rears up and says “Ha, I don’t need all this stinkin’ practice”. You know that inner two year old we battle daily? The one that screams “I do it, I do it” as they tip an entire carton of milk over and watch it chug chug chug all over. Once we can get that inner toddler to stop touching stuff, sit and be quiet, then we can resume the act of practicing. The problem today is that I have spent a lifetime of practicing the bad habits of stressing about things over which I have no control, letting other’s behavior eat my lunch, and letting every argument or misunderstanding become a personal crusade for me. Now that I need to reprogram these behaviors and I can’t just do it overnight, I have to practice doing it right. This is where all that Lamaze breathing we learned comes into use, you breathe in the “good/right” action and breathe out the “bad/negative” one. O.k. now you stay there breathing and I am going to go out and smack something. You get it; else you wouldn’t be following my blog.
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